Oh the places we will go



Hey everybody! We are back in the swing of things at school for my wife and work for me. Exciting stuff I know. It does make me laugh how antsy my wife gets studying in one place ALL the time! I get it though…I can’t sit still ever and it must kill her to do it 12 hours a day. We are constantly looking for new places to study for her like a coffee shop, or a park in the summer (btw this never ends with a productive study day) or you name it. Today we had a novel idea…why don’t we study at the public library? Man I haven’t been in here for years and let me tell you it is a sitcom waiting to be written. Did you know libraries barely have books in them anymore? Yeah they have these things called computers that have an infinite amount of knowledge and data on them. Seriously I am pretty sure they cleared out all the book space for computers. I am not trying to hate on libraries but if a killer is on the loose, a good place to start the search is the public library. Pretty sure I passed a typewriter on the way in. I think a library is like walking into a time machine and feeling like Marty McFly by the end. Don’t get me wrong libraries are great and serve their purpose but you really see the sign of the times when you see more magazines and PC’s than actual books at your local library. It brings a smile to my face that I am here though because there is no place I would rather be than sitting next to my wife and a homeless guy writing a blog post. Always laugh and have a great weekend!

What it takes

My brain was not built for science. Instead it was built for sports knowledge and trivial facts about the Civil War, pirates (don’t ask) and movie quotes. My wife makes up for my lack of science based knowledge which is a good balance in our relationship. For any pre med students or anyone thinking of entering into med school I want to give you a list of observation I have noticed in med students I hang around and what it takes to get that white coat. So here it goes….

1. A strange nerdy passion for science. (I don’t have it like I said but you really have to get excited about all the different areas you will be covering and have a real thirst to learn because your nose will be in many books…I mean a lot)
2. Passion for people. Why are you becoming a doctor? Money? I hope not. You really have to love helping others and it will give you great satisfaction at the end of the day.
3. Coffee (just kidding but seriously you will)
4. Competitive mindset. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen my wife and her friends push themselves to beat one another on their test. Having a mind set that you want to do well and not just get by will go a long way trust me.
5. Rigorous study habits. If you think you studied a lot in undergrad you haven’t seen nothing yet. (Anybody get the BTO reference? Anyone? Ok moving on) If you have a day where you study 6 or 7 hours you got off easy or you aren’t trying hard enough. Late nights, all nighters, and long periods staring at books and a computer screen listening to lectures will be in your future.
6. Sacrifice. A some point you are going to have to sacrifice the bulk of your social life and much of your social activities.
7. Tough skin. You might have educators and doctors who yell or criticize you at times but it is a learning process and you have to learn to not take it personal.
8. Check your ego. You may have been the top student in the past or think you know everything about everything but you will be mistaken.
9. Flexible. Your hands should be able to touch the floor when you bend down. No I am kidding. I mean things are in constant flux and you will have to adjust to different doctors, environments and teaching styles.
10. Humor. You gotta laugh. Life is too short and you will lose your mind if you don’t find the humor in having 3 tests in one week.

I hope I didn’t scare anyone off. What do I know the closet I have been to being a med student was watching a marathon of Scrubs reruns.

My mission

My wife and I before medical school started

My wife and I in Utah

Hey everybody this is my first voyage into the world of blogging. Pretty excited and I usually don’t shut up, so please tell me when to stop. If you go to my about page you will see that I am an MSU¬†grad and a husband. I have been married for close to a year now and have had some unique experiences in my first year of marriage. The reason I say that is because I have had the opportunity to watch my wife make her way through the rigors of medical school. I have been there for that anatomy class and that first test. I have seen the dedication and time consuming hours it takes just to get by. I have become a dummy and a walking experiment for my wife and her med school classmates. I understand the stress and pressure that students are constantly under and I am constantly amazed by my wife’s work ethic, dedication, and passion for what she does. So here is the mission of this blog….think of it as a journal. My goal is to reach out to anyone in the medical school community that is dating, engaged, married to, or otherwise related to a medical student and understands the challenges that are loved ones face. Use it as a place to vent, to ask question or seek support or just see how your experience compare to mine as a medical student spouse. ¬†Hope I can entertain you a bit and if you want to connect with me further hit me up on twitter @philipgolas.